For what it's worth, the FCC is on your side:
http://www.fcc.gov/guides/over-air-r...n-devices-rule The bottom line is, an HOA can not summarily prohibit the use of an antenna. Some limitations may be enforceable, BUT, the burden of proof falls on the entity that wants to impose a restriction.
The local signals in the San Diego area are spread far enough apart to often require the use of two antennas, one for UHF and another for VHF. The best results will be had if you mount outside in the clear.
The Antennas Direct DB4e is a high performance UHF antenna that has a wide forward beam. For VHF, consider the Antennacraft Y10713 or the Winegard YA1713. You can combine the UHF and VHF signals into a common coax using a UVSJ (UHF/VHF combiner)
http://www.amazon.com/Antennas-Direc...&keywords=db4e
http://www.antennacraft.net/Antennas/AntennasVHF.html
http://www.amazon.com/Antennas-Direc...f+vhf+combiner